You were insulted? Do not worry
Nobody can escape from being judged, talked about, and insulted. Even the noblest man on earth - Prophet Muhammad s.a.w. was insulted by the people of his time, including some of his extended family members. So how do we deal with it?
Of course, being insulted and treated with animosity, hostility and negativity is very draining. We only have some patience, and sometimes it wears off and we get ticked off by the insults. It’s a natural reaction. But losing patience isn’t good for our heart. Anger could lead to many illnesses, including heart problems. So why should we ‘punish’ ourselves with such things? There must be a better way to handle this.
Personally, I don’t like getting angry. I don’t like feeling the rush of anger inside my chest, spreading to my hands, throat & feet, making me feel like wanting to shout and respond to the insults with a warning. But then, where does anger come from? If we respond to insults with anger, doesn’t it show that we ourselves need to check our ego? Because insults hurt the ego, and when the ego is hurt, it’ll retaliate. And this kind of retaliation is pointless.
So that got me thinking, the best example to follow would be the Prophet’s way. How did he respond to insults? In many authentic narrations, he was referred to respond with nothing but kindness. For example, a blind old man that the Prophet s.a.w. always fed would insult him, because the old man didn’t realize that it was the Prophet himself that was feeding him. The Prophet just kept on feeding him, and not once did he reveal his identity. In another example, when the Prophet s.a.w. went to a town to spread the words of Islam, not only was he insulted, but the people even threw stones at him until he bled. But he never retaliate. Instead, he prayed for them, so that the future generation would accept Islam.
What can we learn from these examples?
People will always have something bad to say about us. Sometimes it’s not because of us, but because of the state of their hearts. So if our actions align with Allah’s Commands but we still get insulted, remember that we’re not alone. Yes, it is tough to face this, but it’ll be worth it. With the first step in Jannah, we’ll forget all of these pains. Just continue trying to please Allah, and worry not about what people say.
This reminder is written for myself when my spirits are low and need a good advice.
Of course, being insulted and treated with animosity, hostility and negativity is very draining. We only have some patience, and sometimes it wears off and we get ticked off by the insults. It’s a natural reaction. But losing patience isn’t good for our heart. Anger could lead to many illnesses, including heart problems. So why should we ‘punish’ ourselves with such things? There must be a better way to handle this.
Personally, I don’t like getting angry. I don’t like feeling the rush of anger inside my chest, spreading to my hands, throat & feet, making me feel like wanting to shout and respond to the insults with a warning. But then, where does anger come from? If we respond to insults with anger, doesn’t it show that we ourselves need to check our ego? Because insults hurt the ego, and when the ego is hurt, it’ll retaliate. And this kind of retaliation is pointless.
So that got me thinking, the best example to follow would be the Prophet’s way. How did he respond to insults? In many authentic narrations, he was referred to respond with nothing but kindness. For example, a blind old man that the Prophet s.a.w. always fed would insult him, because the old man didn’t realize that it was the Prophet himself that was feeding him. The Prophet just kept on feeding him, and not once did he reveal his identity. In another example, when the Prophet s.a.w. went to a town to spread the words of Islam, not only was he insulted, but the people even threw stones at him until he bled. But he never retaliate. Instead, he prayed for them, so that the future generation would accept Islam.
What can we learn from these examples?
People will always have something bad to say about us. Sometimes it’s not because of us, but because of the state of their hearts. So if our actions align with Allah’s Commands but we still get insulted, remember that we’re not alone. Yes, it is tough to face this, but it’ll be worth it. With the first step in Jannah, we’ll forget all of these pains. Just continue trying to please Allah, and worry not about what people say.
This reminder is written for myself when my spirits are low and need a good advice.
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